Brides told me RSVP can be crazy, I didn't Believe.

I don't know if this is normal or not but when there is a rsvp written in for spots reserved it is not etiquette to change the number to the amount you want right? I guess it is just a wedding issue people run into sometimes. If Obama invited you to a vip event I don't think people would try and change the number he gave. So I'm trying to charge it off as a wedding thing and not people thinking they can just dictate to me whatever and I have to just deal with it. It probably more of an issue for a bride with a small budget and paying for everything as appose to a bride who was given a lump sum from their parents to plan their day. But even so the stress would still be on the bride and parents in that situation when they are trying to stay in budget. It is perfectly normal for folks to think of their selves only and not think of the whole picture of Does the couple have enough money to add the person i am trying to add that does not know the couple? is the seating arrangement loose enough for the couple to move things all around to accommodate the person i am trying to add? Do you realize you are judging the couple for not having enough money to accomodate your extra wants when you own invite is a sacrifice in itself and they though you very special to share their special day
? I have read a lot of bride blogs and this issue keeps coming up so it is keeping me calm. Folks have even gotten upset at the family and brides in these blogs as well as in my situation. It is really an interesting phenomenon how folks can get mean during such a happy occasions for the couples to be. But brides we just have to stay calm and keep the focus on the fact that the Ultimate Goal is to walk down that aisle and say I Do to the man of your dreams before GOD. Nothing can stop that from happening. If only I was a trust fund baby, I could invite everyone who has ever been in my life, folks woudn't give major attitude and all would be marry?  yeah right! At every level there are bumbs in the road on the wedding planning route. Eye on the prize! God has brought us together and we are starting this new chapter to forever together.